Saturday, June 16, 2012

The good, the bad, and the ugly


Aging is a process that we can’t avoid.  The changes that take place are inevitable.  We can accept them optimistically or be discouraged by them.  Our attitudes about aging are often closely related to the physical and mental health that we experience.

I interviewed two women.  One was 87, and one was 92.  Their feelings about aging seemed to be significantly affected by the physical problems that they have.  Even though they’re no longer able to do all of the things that they used to do in terms of social activities and leisure activities, the most difficult aspect for them is not being as independent as they previously were.

One woman lives alone, and although she mostly lives independently, she no longer drives.  Someone takes her to the places where she needs to go, including to stores to do her shopping.  The other woman depends on someone to cook her meals and help her with ADLs such as toileting, bathing, and dressing.

These women still have a very good outlook, regardless of the challenges that they’ve had.  Both of them said that they lead very full lives and although, like most people, they do have some regrets, overall they’re satisfied with their lives.  Both of them have stayed as active as possible.  They’ve stayed connected to family and friends on a daily basis instead of isolating themselves, which could lead to depression.

When I first started to write this blog, I thought about a movie that I saw many years ago, “The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly,” starring Clint Eastwood.  I don’t remember much about the movie, but the title fits very well with this discussion question.  As we age, we have to take not only the good but also the bad and the ugly.

I thought about how Clint has aged since making that movie.  He’s 82 and continues to make movies.  I believe that his active lifestyle has helped him to age well.

There are good things about aging.  For example, most people don’t have to work as much, and they have more time to spend with family and friends.  Things about aging that could be considered bad include a variety of aches, pains, and health problems.  In terms of the ugly, many people aren’t happy about the wrinkles and the grey hair that they find when they look in the mirror.

In spite of the problems of aging, we can always hope that the good aspects will outweigh the bad and the ugly.

If you want to read more about Clint and the many activities in which he has participated, you can visit this link:





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